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What keeps you faithful?

March 30, 2014 by Peter Fletcher

Johnny Cash looking pensive

What keeps you faithful? Image: Reverendo Franklin https://www.flickr.com/photos/49083998@N07/5204621989/

Johnny Cash once sang “Because you’re mine, I walk the line.” His song was intended to proclame his love and devotion to a woman. But in reality it was – as is so often the case with love songs – a declaration of an unhealthy relationship based on possession and a fear of loss.

Look at the words again. The reason he’d walk the line was because the subject of his song was “mine”. In other words he would be faithful to the other person for as long as they were his possession.

Take away the ownership and Johnny would no longer be walking the line. In other words, his fidelity required possession of another. The moment that possession was lost the the fidelity would cease.

But fidelity based on possession or the threat of loss is disempowering. It places the responsibility for your actions in the hands of another person.

A far more powerful way to express a promise of fidelity would be to say “I’ll walk the line because I’ll walk the line.” There is no reason needed or given and no justification, just a simple promise to be kept despite the circumstances.

So what keeps you faithful? Is it a sense of mutual loss or a simple commitment to keep a promise made?

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Comments

  1. Bd says

    March 30, 2014 at 11:03 pm

    Way more complicated than fear of loss or possession. That’s just touching the surface. Dont publish this 🙂

  2. Marjorie Turner says

    March 31, 2014 at 6:55 pm

    Don’t fear. Simply continue stopping endlessly. GOD knows your trials and deficiencies. It will be alright. Simply continue approaching GOD for help. Above all, pardon as you might want to be overlooked.

  3. kab says

    May 22, 2014 at 3:29 pm

    Have you heard the song Hurt by Johnny Cash? The aftermath of love and life gone wrong. An “empire of dirt’ doesn’t mean much without someone to share it with. The key is “I will heal myself, I will find a way”. When you are whole you are ready to be half of a whole. That’s the irony of life 🙂

  4. Peter Fletcher says

    May 22, 2014 at 4:28 pm

    When you’re whole, you’re ready to be a half a whole. Nice way to put it.

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